Mother’s Day does not mean that we appreciate our mother for one day in the year and then go back to our routine of neglecting her or taking her for granted; it should be a reminder that she needs to be appreciated everyday.
mother is another word for Love’, these words written on a card sent to my mother years ago, have stayed etched in some corner of my mind over the years. Maybe the reason is that it encapsulates the entire personality of a mother in just a few simple but deeply profound words. The reason being that when we describe a mother we immediately assume that everything that she does for her children is out of love.
Her tenderness, her comforting words, her going out of the way to make her children get the best, and also her strict but necessary scolding to keep her offspring in check, are all symbolic of love. Because out of love comes care. And care is the most important aspect of love. To care whether the children are well fed, well rested, well dressed, well-educated, well-mannered, etc., all spring from love. Another aspect of love
is to understand. And who can bet-ter understand her children than a mother. She understands their shortcomings, their nasty behaviour, their tears, their needs, and their failures and accepts them. And most important of all, hers is the only kind of love we take for granted, or maybe can take for granted. Can
such a love ever be repaid? No, because it is unconditional. Not done out of duty but out of uncontrolled compassion.
Can just one day in the whole year be enough to pay tribute to her? Will a poem in her honour be enough? Or can a bouquet or gift given on Mother’s Day repay her for her love and devotion? Not really, but that does in no way mean that we should not celebrate Mother’s Day. There are many things we must do all the year round for which we have allotted one day to re-mind ourselves of their importance like Earth Day or Tobacco Day or Kashmir Day, etc. To celebrate a certain day does not mean that for the rest of the year we put these things out of our minds. For instance, tobacco kills and we need to remind ourselves of the dangers and have to stay away from this deplorable habit throughout our lives. In the same manner, Mother’s Day is not celebrated to just appreciate her for one day in the year and then go back to our routine of ne
glecting her or taking her for granted. It should be a reminder that she needs to be appreciated everyday. Of course, that also does not mean that one needs to give her expensive gifts everyday. Her best gifts are her children and their love for her.
She needs to be appreciated everyday of our lives. A mother is the most irreplaceable and precious person and even though there is nothing that we can do to fully repay what she does for us, we can try to do our bit to help or to make her life easier., Celebrate• Mother’s Day, make her a card, give her a gift, even a mug that says. `World’s best Mother’, but do a small thing everyday to make her feel special. Even if it is just making her a cup of her favourite beverage and asking her t take a few minutes to put her feet up and take a break, or helping in the kitchen or giving her asurprise by cleaning her room! Spare a couple of minutes and give her a neck massage. Even avoiding an argument by keeping calm
when she is angry and then explaining your point of view in are spectable way would be a noble thing to do. Ask her to share your childhood forays and follies, sit with her to make a family album. Accompany her to the market. There are many ways to do just a little bit everyday. Even ifshe does not tell you, she will knowin her heart and will bless you. If you do not agree with the ad-vice she gives you (of course, mothers are human too, even though most of the time we forget that) do not make her feel silly or stupid. In other words, `give her a break’. And a simple “Thanks Mom” goes a long way in making her feel appreciated.
And for those of us who have ailing and aged parents, it is the `litmus test’ in tolerance. They forget, they become hard of hearing, they become difficult like kids. So what? We might be in the same position later on in our lives. And a very important thing to remember is that if our own children do not see us being tolerant towards an ageing parent, they will never be tolerant towards us when we are in the same stage in our lives. The saying goes “It all comes round” and most definitely, it does. For those of us who have been unfortunate to have lost our dearest possession, a mother, do something worthwhile in her memory. Plant a tree, feed the poor or help the needy in her name. Most of all cherish her memory and thank the Almighty for the uncountable moments she made your life easier and better